Throughout our lives, we all experience many types of new beginnings. From traditional milestones like taking our first steps to our first day of school, or embarking on new phases like marriage or parenthood, our lives are filled with transitions that ask us to start at the beginning again and again. Often, we are able to prepare for these big changes: Packing for our move to college; updating our wardrobes for a new job; downsizing before settling into a quieter life post-retirement. These beginnings are welcome, whatever changes they bring, because we have worked toward them, fueled by a desire to start fresh in a new chapter of our lives.
“Throughout our lives, we all experience many types of new beginnings.”
There are also many endings, sometimes after a plot twist we didn’t see coming. Losing a job, receiving a life-altering medical diagnosis, or realizing a long-term partnership has come to an end can throw us into logistical and emotional chaos. These sudden and abrupt changes can turn our lives upside down, sometimes threatening our very sense of self, causing us to wonder if we’ll ever feel happy again.
And then, after the dust has settled, sometimes these endings reveal the fresh starts we couldn’t have planned for, but are exactly what we needed.
These are the moments when we gather the courage to step into the unknown, trusting that something beautiful awaits us on the other side. Whether it’s leaving behind a relationship that no longer serves us, taking a leap of faith in our careers, or finding light again after loss, starting over is both terrifying and exhilarating.
“These are the moments when we gather the courage to step into the unknown, trusting that something beautiful awaits us on the other side.”
In honor of spring rushing in, we’ve compiled your stories of resilience, bravery, and transformation. These stories are proof that even in our hardest moments, we are capable of rewriting our narratives. No matter where you are on your own path, may these words remind you that you are not alone. 🫶
*Some responses have been condensed or edited for length and clarity.
Health and healing
“Starting over became more than a phrase to me when I was diagnosed with incurable cancer, in 2022. I was an up-and-coming corporate executive in international banking with an endless social calendar & neverending travel itinerary. Life was good & I was going places. And then cancer came calling — friends left, traveling became restricted & the career I had worked so hard to build had to be put on the back burner. Physical, mental, and emotional trauma ripped apart my well-ordered life, forever. But why go through such pain if we can’t live? So I had to find new ways to live, new beginnings and ‘rehabilitate’ my understanding of self-worth. I discovered joy in my work, doing it for the sake of its creativity instead of a step for the next promotion; I found new, more empathic connections & found much to appreciate & grateful for those who stuck by. Most importantly, I founded a community for cancer patients in India; in a country where the illness is still something not discussed. I openly started talking about my journey, mentoring other cancer patients, helping them navigate life after cancer. I started over, I hope better and stronger.” – Jayanti Chakraborty
“I feel so blessed to have a new beginning with my son who is an addiction recovery.” – DS
“I’m recently in remission from cancer and going through major transitions in my life, mostly personal and relationships. All good things. I have a new outlook on life with patience and kindness to myself. A new outlook on humanity. Cancer brought me great perspective of the world and how I enjoy it. I would love to share more of a story.” – LB
“In recent years, I was diagnosed with a neurological disorder where I needed skull surgery. After surgery, 6 months later, I was diagnosed with a chronic illness that took away half of my mobility, where I ended up taking medical leave at my corporate job and eventually needing to ultimately depart. For about a year, I utilized my time resting and discovering how to manage life living with a disability. Eventually, my self-sabotaging thoughts led me to therapy where I discovered my passion for mental health. This year, I began my Masters in Social Work program at the University of South Florida where I will learn to become a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and work as a Therapist that focuses on Trauma Care, Depression, and Chronic illnesses to help others like me to not feel alone and have assistance while working through their own struggles. This path has led me to a career change I knew I always wanted to pursue but could not give myself the push I needed to do it. I went from being in Corporate America to working in mental health and it was the greatest decision I could have ever made when it come to starting over while living with a disability.” – Kaley K
“I’m forty-one, and I’ve just discovered I have ADHD. It has turned my world upside down, in the best way! I now understand why I jump from career to career, as I’m seeking a dopamine hit, and this means I can now put mechanisms in place to help me stick at things. It also explains why I’m so sensitive to rejection and criticism, and struggle in friendship groups. I’ve finally found a square hole for my square peg! And it’s such a relief!” – Amy E
“Last year, at 29, I received a life-changing diagnosis: Autism (level 1). An ADHD diagnosis soon followed, as did a diagnosis of CPTSD and an eating disorder. After receiving my diagnosis, I found out that both my parents are on the spectrum, with one parent actually receiving a formal diagnosis of ADHD as a child. I never knew. It was a HARD year for me, full of relief, grief, anxiety, fear….but also tons of growth. Suddenly, my entire life made sense. For the first time ever, I began to understand why I was the way I was, and I have slowly been unlearning self-hatred, putting firm boundaries in place and have been moving towards self acceptance. It’s been incredibly hard work, and I still have far to go, but I’ve never felt as confident and secure in myself as I do now.” – Xyla
“Today, as I celebrate 45 years, I reflect on a life that’s been beautiful, messy, transformative, and deeply meaningful. I’ve faced trauma, made mistakes, and carried burnout without understanding why—until motherhood, chronic pain, perimenopause, and a late ADHD diagnosis illuminated so much of my journey. With my partner’s unwavering support, I began the brave, uncomfortable work of rediscovering myself. Through therapy, rest, nature, prayer, and soul searching, I emerged stronger and more aligned than ever. In the last year, I’ve left a great job, launched Frankly Frankie Communications, became Rev. Frankie (yes, I can marry you!), and started training as an end-of-life doula. These bold moves may seem unconventional, but they feel truer than any title ever did. I’ve learned that identity isn’t fixed—it evolves. Joy, purpose, and success aren’t defined by achievements but by connection, curiosity, and authenticity. Every version of me — dramatic child, anxious new mom, imposter-filled student — was vital. I honor them all. I did this for my partner, my kids, lost loved ones, and every woman who’s ever felt ‘lost.’ But mostly, I did it for her — that little girl who always deserved to feel whole. Here’s to 45 years of becoming — and what comes next….✌️” – Francine C
“Starting over is humbling — and I’ve done it many times. From moving countries, to a life-changing injury, to getting fired and becoming an entrepreneur, each restart has been a challenge. It never gets easier, but it always leads to growth. I once trained for the Olympics in judo — my entire identity was wrapped in it. Then, a serious injury changed everything in an instant. I couldn’t breathe, let alone fight. I had to rebuild who I was, grieve the life I lost, and begin again. Later, getting fired from my corporate job felt like failure. I spiraled — but with support and time, I rediscovered my creativity. I dove back into photography, something I had always loved but never pursued. That “failure” opened the door to becoming a top student, a creative professional, and now, the proud founder of my own photography business. Starting over is painful. It forces you to let go of who you thought you were. But it also reveals strength, talents, and possibilities you never imagined. The journey is never solo — lean on support. There is no single ‘right’ path — only the one you choose. Embrace it. Grow from it. You never know what’s waiting on the other side.” – Tessa E
“I recently — in my early 40s — unlocked some deeply repressed childhood trauma. I had been having dreams for months and one week it all broke open. While there was a significant amount of pain, there was also healing. No one tells you how painful healing can be. However, since going through the process and the journey a number of health issues have subsided, I feel like I am able to love (give and receive) in a way I never have before, and the world looks new. I am looking forward to the second half of this lifetime. I do not know what it will bring. But I know that I am different. And that is enough.” – RB
Career and passions
“I’ve had three distinct new beginnings in my adult life and realized that I’ve always embraced change. Since change is inevitable, ultimately, this has been a worthwhile life skill to cultivate. I had my life planned out early on, but ended up going through a divorce at a relatively young age. This helped propel me into a major career change from tech consulting to being accepted to medical school and ultimately completing my doctorate of pharmacy in my late 30s. In the last ten years, while working a second career as a pharmacist, I also got much more involved in real estate, personal investing, and contract work related to my original profession. This has allowed me so much freedom and choice in my professional life that I was able to ‘early-retire’ from full-time work two years ago. While my trajectory would not be considered conventional by any standard, I am incredibly proud and appreciative of that young woman who continued to invest in herself and remained fearless in the face of uncertainty. It’s not over yet, I look forward to many new beginnings to come!” – Dr. Molly M.
“After completing my first novel, I queried literary agents for publishing representation from October–February, and I finally signed with an agent that I’m so excited about! My novel is currently ‘on submission’ right now to editors at publishing houses, and I’m hoping for good news soon (and that I can eventually leave my marketing 9–5 to write full-time!).” – Allyson R.
“I am brave. Really brave. This is something I remind myself of every single damn day. For the past three years, I’ve been on a wild ride (partly by design). While this journey as a Digital Slowmad has taken me across breathtaking landscapes, it has also led me to question everything about my chosen career. I built a freelance business and secured my biggest paycheck, and for a while, I believed that ‘this was it’. With confidence and a desire for connection with coworkers, I applied for over 100 jobs (that I was well qualified for). However, as time passed, something still felt off. Then, fittingly, in the stillness of a national park, it hit me: I needed to understand climate change beyond the headlines. More importantly, I had to find a more meaningful way to contribute. That realization led me to an intensive climate fellowship, where, piece by piece, the answer revealed itself: I was meant to work in conservation. While the timing is far from ideal, the recent attacks on this work only prove that it is worthy. This transition hasn’t been easy (and my bank account agrees), but I now know this is the work I was meant to do. Did I mention that I’m turning 40 this year?” – Miranda R.
“I changed my career and went back to school at age 30, shortly after having my first child. Becoming a student again while juggling the demands of parenthood (and the way it has shifted my relationship with and perception of myself) has certainly been challenging. That being said, I’m two months away from graduating with my master’s in counseling, and I’m hopeful that this season, while difficult, has shown my (now two!) kids that change is always possible, that you’re never done learning, and that to be a parent is also to be a person with goals and dreams and hopes. We’ve all learned a lot over these last few years, and I’m so thankful for my partner and my two little boys for supporting me through it. And so, so excited to graduate and move on to the next phase of my career!” – Claire B
“My new beginning quietly started on November 14, 2023. I was spending four hours a day in traffic, overwhelmed and emotionally drained. I’d break down in my car before work, feeling like a zombie in my own life. Eventually, my therapist stepped in and recommended disability leave. Within days, I was no longer working — and it was a massive relief. It took three months to let go of the shame and begin truly healing. I embraced slow mornings, time in nature, the gym, and finally took the Peer Support Specialist course I had always dreamed of. In February 2024, I attended the Abilities Expo and discovered Easterseals. By December, I was hired as a Life Skills Coach. The pay isn’t amazing, but I love what I do and genuinely enjoy each day. The best part? I drastically reduced my drive time between home, work, and my daughter’s school — my original goal. Taking that year off, after working nonstop since I was 16, was a gift I’ll never forget. I learned to trust the process, show up for myself, and embrace a new, more fulfilling chapter.” – Michelle T.
“During the height of the pandemic, in 2021, I decided to leave the school system. It was a time of stress, uncertainty, and political divide (much like today). Five years leading up to my resignation, I felt a push to leave my position. I would push back at it, and not think much of it. Until the pandemic came. Without going back too much, we know that schools politicized the pandemic and unfortunately, my district was one of the ones that wanted to throw us back into the trenches without proper personal protective equipment. So long story short, with the added stress…this was the straw that broke the camel’s back. So, I resigned. There were so many moments of uncertainty but I look back now and see it was all for a purpose. I was able to be with my son who, at the time, needed that extra help and attention. And this time off also gave me time to discover myself in new ways. Fast forward to 2025, I am now launching my own business, Good Deeds International, where my mission is to empower neurotypical and neurodivergent youth and young adults by providing essential social and emotional skills that foster personal development, resilience, and positive relationships. My message to anyone who might be looking to start a new career is ‘do it afraid’. You got this!” – Michelle B.
“I graduated university eager to change the world through teaching. As an ECE, I loved every moment — ten-hour days with preschoolers left me fulfilled, but financially, it wasn’t sustainable. Heartbroken, I left childcare and found myself in transportation, eventually driving a school bus during the pandemic. That role brought back a glimpse of the joy I’d lost. During that time, I also discovered gardening. What began as a hobby quickly became a therapeutic obsession — I immersed myself in learning about soil, plants, and insects. When a local nursery needed help, I showed up expecting a volunteer role but was offered a paid position on the spot. I stayed two seasons before realizing horticulture could be a real path forward. Last year, I graduated as a horticultural and landscape technician. Today, I’m a research assistant working on a groundbreaking entomology project to improve pest management in greenhouses. I have an amazing mentor, space to grow, and a deep sense of purpose. Starting over was terrifying, and imposter syndrome still creeps in, but I’m so grateful I took the leap. I’ve found my passion — and now, I’m building a life around it.” – Madison M
“Last year, my two youngest children graduated from high school and began college. I decided it was time for me to pursue my own dream. I took the MCAT, and this summer, at the age of 53, I will be starting medical school. I. Cannot. Wait!!!” – CD
“At 48, I did that cliche thing of ‘pursuing my dream.’ After raising two amazing humans into their teens, and working for 20+ years in a stable job, I went back for a graduate degree to work with as a hospice social worker, something I’ve wanted to do since I was 18. In just two weeks (and 14 days shy of my 51st birthday, I will graduate with my MSW, and my kids, now 16 and 18 will be there to see me walk across the stage. It really is never too late.” – Courtney S.
“For a long time, I thought careers were supposed to follow a neat, linear path — you pick a direction, put your head down, and move steadily forward. My reality, though, has looked a lot more like a winding garden path, full of unexpected turns, overgrown detours, and the occasional dead end. But what I’ve learned is that starting over isn’t failure — it’s an act of hope. I’ve worn a lot of hats over the years: Accountant, teacher, political researcher, academic. Every pivot came from both necessity and curiosity — chasing stability, chasing passion, chasing purpose. But after a while, it started to feel like I was always almost in the right place, but not quite. I knew I wanted meaningful work that aligned with my values and provided financial security — but finding both at once felt like chasing a unicorn. Recently, though, after a long stretch of uncertainty (and more rejection emails than I care to count), I landed a new job that feels like it might finally be that rare unicorn. It’s work that challenges me without draining me, in a mission-driven space that respects balance and boundaries. For the first time in a long time, I don’t feel like I’m fighting against the current. I feel like I’ve arrived — or at least, like I’m walking in the right direction. Starting over hasn’t been easy. It’s been humbling and exhausting and sometimes lonely. But it’s also been expansive. Every twist in my path taught me something I needed — about myself, about resilience, about what I truly want. And now, standing here, I’m grateful for the messiness of it all. It didn’t look like I thought it would — but maybe that’s what growth really looks like.” – Katharine RD
“A year ago, I dropped out of grad school to pursue tech and art. It was not an easy decision because I thought my life was already planned out. I felt like a failure for a WHILE because I never was a quitter. But instead, I realized that it is not necessarily quitting but more so prioritizing. I chose to prioritize my mental health, my physical health and my overall wellbeing. It is okay if life never goes as planned because new doors will always open for you if you never give up on yourself. Trust the process and be patient along the way. Now I am in tech specifically in AI and it feels great! I am making more money than I was in grad school. I am healthier in the mind, body and soul. Never compare yourself with others as YOUR journey itself is already so beautiful however that may look like. Never give up on life and never give up on yourself)” – Min L.
“In 2020, I took a big leap from a traditional 9-5 job to live and learn on a chocolate farm to moving across the country and starting life as an entrepreneur and freelance producer. Following my joy and using wellbeing as a lens, I had to cultivate a lot of trust in the universe and in my ability to do hard things. I left NYC without an apartment for a 3 week road trip and found my new home on the way there. Talk about an exercise in trust and taking action. My fresh start was inspired by COVID and racial uprisings of 2020 that reaffirmed the radical ways I want to resist hustle culture and be part of creating a new world through art, education, wellness, and community engagement.” – ASW
“For over 15 years, I held leadership roles in some of Colorado’s most impactful community organizations. I had the title, salary, and recognition — but five years ago, I hit a wall. Despite loving the work, I felt burnt out and misaligned. My body and spirit were exhausted. I didn’t know what was next, but I found the courage to quit without a plan. What followed was a journey of self-reflection, healing, and rediscovery. With support from family, friends, therapists, and coaches, I slowed down and made space to truly listen to myself. I explored different paths — applying for jobs, testing business ideas — and slowly uncovered what I was meant to do. Now, I run my own business supporting women leaders to reduce overwhelm and grow their impact through mentorship, coaching, and events. I believe personal wellbeing is essential to professional success — it’s not optional, it’s foundational. My coaching bridges both worlds, helping people align their lives and work with what matters most. One of my favorite quotes is ‘I am not becoming someone else, I am unbecoming what I’m not.’ That represents so much of this journey.” – Kelly
“I believe the universe provides us with a path at the right time. In 2022, I accepted a position with a large personal injury law firm; I was lured by the money. Needless to say, it didn’t take long to understand why it paid so well. It was to keep me somewhat happy while working 70-hour weeks in a toxic hellhole. I gutted it out for 10 months then requested I be demoted to their call center just to get away from my boss, but little known to me, my boss visited the call center once a week. I was desperate to get out, applying for bartending and serving jobs, different positions with local and federal government. After months of trying, I received an offer from a federal agency. I was overjoyed; a federal position and a way out! I knew I was getting a pay cut, however, I didn’t realize how severe it was until after my first paycheck. After taxes, I was barely making enough to pay rent AND feed myself, not to mention gas to drive to work and refills of my anti-depressants. I felt trapped once more, but after three more months of looking, the perfect job came to me at the perfect time. I accepted a position with the local court helping pro se parties navigate the judicial system. Needless to say, it was exactly what I hoped it would be and more. Transition is so hard, but this job saved my life. All I want to say is if you’re struggling, keep going. The universe will give you an answer.” – KLD
“The panic was setting in — racing heart, body locked — as I collapsed on my closet floor. In that moment, I knew: My career was killing me. I had always wanted to be a teacher — one had saved me as a child, and I wanted to do the same for others. But after six years and three school districts, my body was done. I ignored the signs: The crushing exhaustion, the immobility after work, the panic attacks. I blamed the commute, then the hours. I moved closer to work, set boundaries, tried to cut back on grading. Nothing helped. Still, I stayed — because of the students. Their words, their gratitude, the difference I made for them kept me going. Then my second child was born, and I planned a year off. As that year ended, my therapist warned: If I went back, I’d need therapy again. My body screamed no. So, I let go. The relief was immediate. No more panic, no more dread. I’m the same weight, but my face has changed — peaceful now. I play with my kids after work. I’m proud of myself. If I can leave you with anything, it would be to listen to your body. So often, it knows long before we do when something isn’t working for us. Trust yourself. You got this.” – B.E.
“In my late 20s, I was miserable in my job and feeling generally lost in life. I started exploring graduate programs in a completely unrelated field and found something in Scotland that looked like the perfect fit. Eight months after applying, my now husband and I packed our bags, put all our belongings in storage, and made the move overseas! It was easily one of the scariest decisions I’ve made. I was sick with anxiety the two weeks ahead of our flight and nearly gave myself an out. What was I doing?? Why was I leaving a city I was in love with? What if something happened to my parents and I’d have to take a 10-hour flight to be with them? Now, I can’t imagine what my life would be if I hadn’t made that decision. Not only did we build a rich memory bank of travel experiences and lifetime friendships (not to mention, my husband worked at a CASTLE, like, what?), but my new degree opened the door for my dream career. I now work doing something I love with an incredible company and am free from the insidious misery of job dissatisfaction. The entire experience illustrated to me that you’re truly only one decision away from completely altering your life. You just have to have the courage to prioritize your wellbeing and happiness. Now that I’m about six years removed from that time, I’m starting to feel the itch to mix things up again. And this time, it feels more exciting than scary to be back on the precipice of change. I wonder where I’ll go?)” – KS
“I was a preschool teacher for couple years and I also have my own preschooler. I was noticing severe burnout the last year, which was showing up at home with my daughter and husband. I decided to leave my preschool teaching job. I was very nervous for the unknown but I found a part-time job in the morning at a local gym in the child care side. My daughter gets to come for free, and I also get free membership. I still get to be with children but this is only 5 hours a day instead of 8 and I can see a complete difference in my mood. Change is scary but sometimes it’s for the best of our soul.” – B.J.M
“I spent the first 12 years of my adult life in education. I went to school for Elementary Education (and Dance Education) and spent my years working with students as a sub, a paraprofessional, all while teaching dance in the evenings. When I became a mom in 2021, my priorities obviously shifted, and I started over as a SAHM (still teaching dance part-time.) It has been the most rewarding experience of my life, and I am gradually adapting what I’ve learned to best suit the needs of my two children. I do plan to make another shift once the kids are both in school full-time, and am strongly considering a career as a florist. I’ve always felt a connection to flowers (I wore a hair clip in my hair for 10 years straight, and my only tattoo is flowers with my daughter’s name). It took a few years, but I finally feel satisfied with how I’ve transitioned to a SAHM. I have chore lists, meal lists, and feel in control of the day-to-day. Overall, I’m happy (and of course, tired too!).” – Emily N.
“I’m currently in a transitional phase from a well-paid job in academia to taking my silversmithing business full-time. The loss of the steady salary is the scariest prospect, but after struggling with my mental health for at least a year in this job, I’m finally ready to risk it. The thought of being my own kind, fair boss is something I’m so excited about, and I think it’s the right stage in my life to try it. Sometimes it’s hard to tell whether the funny feeling in my stomach is fear or excitement, but I’ll figure it out, I can trust myself.” – MW
“I had a background in Education (Master’s degree in Educational Counseling) and worked at different universities and colleges for about 8 years. A few years ago I had an unfortunate incident at my place of work and needed a change. I dabbled in a few things post-career, such as working as a barista, but it wasn’t until the start of this year that I found something that truly brings me joy. I am in the midst of becoming a floral designer and am learning the trade at a local florist shop with amazing people. I recently moved into a fixer-upper of sorts as well and am taking the time now that the weather is warming to propagate my own flowers. This fresh start has been a truly needed welcome and I already feel like this is where I’m supposed to be.” – Shannon B.
“They soft-pedaled at first, expecting me to beg for my job. When I didn’t, my boss issued the ultimatum: Return to a full-time, in-person schedule or be laid off. I’d negotiated my 30-hour hybrid schedule after having my son, who was nine months old. I wasn’t ready to give that up. Rubbing sweaty palms on my thighs, I asked for time to think. He snapped, ‘People are cleaning out their desks right now!’ But I secured 18 hours — and used them to change my life. I’d fallen into project management during a bad economy, eventually becoming an account director. But I wanted to be a writer. No — dreamed, yearned, obsessed. I woke early, stayed up late, and wrote when my kids slept. For three years, I blogged, submitted essays, read writing books, and practiced. It was exhausting. Rejection piled up. But when the ultimatum came, I knew what I wanted. The next morning, I showed up with a proposal in hand. Two months later, my email signature read “Writer.” I’ve since written for the National Park Service, HuffPost, and Marriott. Start now, even if you’re unsure. Hone your skills. Do the work. When the moment comes — you’ll be ready.” – Tricia M.
“After 10 years in marketing, working predominantly in financial services, I decided to rip off the bandaid and run right out of the corporate world. Now I’m studying to become a doula, someone who supports women during pregnancy and birth.” – Sophie
“I was let go of a job that I thought was the best next step in my career and it was terrible there, I felt so unhappy and didn’t want to give up, but it turns out it was the best thing that could have happened. I used the time off to start writing children’s books and now work at a school that I LOVE.” – Alicia M
“Sometimes, a beginning chooses you before you’re ready. Unconcerned with plans, it drifts in like a seed pod on spring air — and when it lands, everything changes. In August 2024, I stepped into life as a ‘freelance artist,’ which many might call ‘unemployment.’ I’d left a secure, well-paying job in academia, with potential for advancement. Friends and colleagues didn’t understand. ‘People wait their whole careers for this,’ they said. But my heart knew it wasn’t my path. I chose to listen — to see what was on the other side of fear. Two months later, life unraveled further. My partner lost his home on Davis Islands to Helene’s floodwaters. Milton threatened the cabin my dad built — the last place his spirit lived. Eight months on, we’re still beginning again. I’ve floated between gigs: Art workshops, dog sitting, photobooth bus, market vendor, artist-in-residence, and back to adjunct. I often feel like a toddler in floaties, but I’ve learned this: Happiness costs less than I thought, and dog-paddling toward a dream feels better than patching a void. As my partner and I eat burritos on a futon beside a phantom waterline, I remember what a meditation teacher once said: There is no risk, only attachment to outcome. Maybe ready comes after.” – Angelina P
“In December 2019, right before the pandemic shuttered much of the world in 2020, I submitted my retirement letter for teaching high school English. After 25 years, I felt like I was ready to close that chapter of my life. After waving to my students on the Friday before spring break, I realized later that I wouldn’t see any of them again and that was definitely a heartbreak. Luckily, I live in a small town and have since seen many of those kids again, much to my joy. I took a few years to rest up and regroup and then I was ready for my second act. I completed training to be a death doula and began volunteering with hospice. I knew how much I loved helping usher youngsters into their next chapter of life, and so it made perfect sense to me to help accompany others with their transition into the next realm. I have always had a heart for service, volunteering as a candy striper in high school and assigned to the terminal ward of Stanford Hospital. With my hospice and doula work now, I feel that I’ve come full circle, and I feel so fulfilled and grateful I have found a new way to serve others in a way I would also like to be assisted some day.” – Laura L
“Every time I’ve started over, it’s returned me to what I know and love with a fresh and appreciative perspective. Growing up in New England, I couldn’t wait to get out and purposefully went to college in a different part of the country, only to wind up back in the Northeast (New York City) for my first job. After five years, I had to get out of NYC, so I landed a job in Chicago, only to be transferred back to NYC (at my own request) a few years later. All these transitions led me to my current job — which I love — and also to my husband, a former work colleague I reconnected with and fell in love with ten years after we first met. Sometimes, starting over can be the most beautiful combination of beginning anew with what you know and love as well as what you’ve learned along the way.” – Stephanie B.
“I’m 58 years old. I’ve raised a family, retired from a 38-year career in the hair industry and now I’m back at school going after the art degree that I’ve always wanted. It feels amazing!” – Debi L.
“I left the world of entertainment, corporate communications after a nearly 30-year career and I bought the most beautiful gift shop in my very own neighborhood! The store has challenged me in so many ways, but I’m so grateful for the community and good energy that I receive every day from my clients! I encourage everyone if they’re looking to make a change it’s never too late!” – Kristen T
“I was working as a journalist in a desk job and absolutely hating it! But I didn’t know where to go, as I’d told myself it was my dream job/career. This made it extra tricky to leave as I couldn’t think of where to go instead. After taking a plunge and really leaning into my intuition and allowing myself the freedom to experiment again, I began working at a wood-fired sauna down on the beach in Brighton where I was living. It was amazing! I was outside, smelling of wood smoke and the sea, and I am so grateful I made that leap from a well-paying, secure job into a zero-hour contract on a beach! But I was so much happier being outside, and it’s led me to a beautiful way of life and community and into a more connected, nature-loving world. I now am training as a child therapist, and still working in saunas (this time in a community garden!) and I’m so glad because it gave me that pivoting point to really get to learn myself and be led into areas I was more naturally drawn towards!” – Tallulah T
“I was in banking for 14 years when my department was laid off due to an acquisition. Burnt out and bitter and maybe a little excited as well, I took 6 months off, but towards the end of that timeframe, I was desperately searching for a new career. Finances were tight, and we had gone through our savings. I had stumbled upon a non-profit job posting but thought that’s not for me — I don’t have all of the experience they are looking for. A few weeks later, I saw the job posting had been reposted and I thought what do I have to lose? They can tell me I don’t meet all the criteria they are looking for or they may hire me. They hired me! The fun part was that the Executive Director is the mom of a girl I was friends with in elementary school. I had even been to their house several times as a child. It calmed my nerves a little bit during the interview process to have someone familiar questioning me. I have been with this non-profit for 2 and a half years now, and it is the perfect fit for my life. Sometimes we have to step out of our comfort zones, even if we feel unqualified, and own our strengths in order to find something way better than we could have expected!” – SMJ
“I started a new business in the spring of 2020 when COVID-19 brought my career in hospitality consulting to a halt. Now, I help folks in Boise, Idaho, learn to grow their own vegetables. At Gold Feather Gardens, we’re growing Boise’s kitchen garden community from the ground up!” – Jamie B.
“In 2019, I sold my home and moved to chase a big dream — building Monarch, a living resort. A $16.5 million dollar completely sustainable corporate resort. Nothing like it exists in the world today. On March 14, 2020, the world shut down and my world began to implode. It took me almost 5 years and lots of little jobs to find my way back to myself. In January 2025, I officially relaunched my successful marketing consulting firm, MarketingSense. And I am a few short days from launching a new business venture, Ohio Backwoods. Ohio Backwoods is an organization that will provide users with quick access to outdoor recreation activities based upon zip code. I have overcome my fear of failure from Monarch to try again. One cannot succeed or fail, if they do not try.” – Wendy K
“After leaving an abusive relationship at 26, I went back to school and started my life from scratch. I moved in with my parents, repaid significant debt while delivering pizzas and working as a receptionist, got my Associate’s and my Bachelor’s within 2 years of starting (each summa cum laude), and graduated from law school at age 33 as the class salutatorian. I’m now a family law attorney and presently work for the family court. I transition into private practice in September, where I am excited to use my own life experience to help others. Starting over was the best thing I’ve ever done for myself, and although it’s been a hard road, I could not be more grateful.” – ED
“I have a story, one that is still evolving. I had a 30+ year career managing corporate sponsorships and brand ambassadors for two of the biggest brands in the United States. At the age of 55, I found myself at a crossroads. I was unemployed after my last postion was eliminated and I no longer had any passion for the work. I did a complete change. Got a real estate license, started writing my first book, and immersed myself in my community. I’m still struggling to support myself financially through any of this, but I feel more human and alive than I ever have.” – Shari
Love and relationships
“I always thought 30 sounded so definitive and that I would have so much put together by then. Instead, in the few months before I turned 30 I ended up breaking up with my boyfriend (who I had been preparing to move in with), losing my job during an organizational restructuring, and finding out my apartment lease would not be renewed. Not being a particularly spontaneous person, my friends and family were surprised when I decided I would take my first solo vacation to Costa Rica for a week to see if I could reset. Eight years later and I’m still here. I met and married my husband, bought a house, started my own business, found my wonderful dogs, and have connected with an amazing community. While I thought everything I had was ending just before I turned 30, it was really just starting. I may not be a practicing attorney in Washington, DC, with 2 kids as anticipated, but I’m so incredibly grateful for this unexpected, spontaneous new start.” – Chelsea K
“When our daughter was just one year old, my ex-husband came out as gay. As a therapist, I felt a complicated mix of emotions — grief, shock, and a deep sense of embarrassment, like I should have somehow seen it coming. I also felt the weight of the stigma that can come with being a newly single mom, especially one in a helping profession. But over time, we rebuilt — differently. Today, we co-parent with mutual respect and a shared love for our daughter, raising her in two happy homes. This chapter of my life was never part of the plan, but it taught me that sometimes life unravels in ways you could never imagine — and still, you find strength and resilience you didn’t know you had.” – Salina G
“I started over after my divorce four years ago. Just me and my (then) 5-year-old daughter. At first, it was hard. Whenever something challenging came my way, I immediately thought of my ex and how he should have been there to help me. I was so worried about my daughter and how the abandonment of her father would affect her. And did I mention that this was all during the pandemic, so my anxiety was sky-high, worrying about keeping us both safe and trying to do everything right? Well, fast forward four years…I got a promotion and am now working in administration at my school. My daughter and I have been (separately) seeing therapists for a few years, and it has made a huge positive impact on both of us. I have created a stable, consistent home and routine for myself and my child. She is thriving in school and with friends and activities. I am thriving with my confidence, both in who I am (which is a completely different person than I was four years ago!) and the decisions that I make each day. Now, I have finally decided to try out dating again, and, well, it’s interesting! It’s a totally different experience than it was before I met my ex. I am now going into it with more confidence, self-knowledge, and strength than I had before. And that sense of urgency to get married and have a kid? GONE! So, I don’t worry about when or how I meet someone. It’s just part of the journey. And the sky is the limit!” – Lynne N.
“After COVID and an abusive relationship, I committed myself to my dream of moving West. I left my abusive ex, found a new home to rent (which took forever to find because of COVID), gave myself that year lease to plan out the next year and what moving all of my belongings across the country would look like by myself, and I did it! I feel so proud of this accomplishment and it’s something I reflect back on often. Even in the midst of hardship now (I lost my job in January and am losing a 1.5 relationship with my partner), I hold onto that personal experience, that personal strength, that personal growth I know I can give myself to overcome anything.” – MCJ
“Hello from up North! Starting from scratch is never something I thought I’d be doing or adding to my vocabulary. I left a toxic marriage about 6 months ago, I know nothing about being on my own, except that it’s a big world out here. I left with trauma I didnt know I had, a failing business due to stress, no money, no home, and debt. Just me, my car, and a tough road ahead. I have four beautiful kiddos who have done their best to be supportive, but they are grown, married, with families of their own to worry about. I am currently staying in a domestic violence shelter. A couple months ago, I decided to shut down all social media and read again. Between your newsletter and the books I have found, I’ve been able to make baby steps to being independent. I’m calling it an adventure, trying to look at the bright side of things. The blessings in even the worst of days. I have hope, I am learning, I am maturing, I’m paying attention to the lessons presented to me, learning to love myself.” – Hill B
“After leaving a 10-year stale relationship, I moved back in with my parents. I felt embarrassed that I was back at home in my 30s. I went back to school and started a new career that I absolutely love, and then I found myself entering another relationship. I’m now living with him, in a beautiful house, and every morning, I wake up feeling accomplished and proud of myself that I took that leap and left my relationship and moved back in with my parents. I would never have found my true self.” – BB
“My mother and I have had no contact for over 5 years. Recently, she reached out and wanted to see me and my 5-year-old daughter. I was very nervous and I didn’t want to hurt again, but we have been having a fantastic time getting to know each other all over. My daughter absolutely loves her. Sometimes it’s best to forgive and start fresh.” – M.B.J
Moving and travel
“There are many standard ‘start over’ times in life: New marriage, empty nesting, career changes, residential moves, retirement. I engaged in a combo swirl of the latter three when I semi-retired and moved to the Bahamas, where a part-time gig would offset sun-sand-turquoise-water living. Until that pesky Category 5+ hurricane blew in on 225 mph winds, obliterating my still-settling-into island town. Cue the Start Over. COVID delayed and moulded a new beginning when lockdowns reignited my wanderlust (after doing a lot of post-trauma mental healing) which I satisfied by moving onto a boat, traveling the islands from my floaty home for four years. I’m currently mid-Start Over once more at age 59, driving halfway across the US as I write this, having sold said boat, donated/sold most of my belongings, en route to store the remainder to allow me and my husband a year (or more) of slow travel. We’re off to see the world, and Start Over in some new locale somewhere out there, to be determined. Perhaps my middle name should be Reset?” – Wendy H
“Deciding to move to a new city to end the distance gap with my then boyfriend and now husband led to a fully new beginning. I hadn’t made friends yet in my new city, but my best friend’s in-laws let me move in and it not only led to me feeling adopted into a new family but I felt all the chains from the expectations built up around who I was in my college years just fall to the ground. I’ve loved getting to build a community of friendships that see me in all the ways my partner does — and how I get to build new expectations of the kind of friend I want to be to others.” – KPF
“Life took an unexpected turn in December 2023 when my husband and I decided we wanted to pack up our family of 5 (soon to be 6!) and move to Mexico for a year! After 8 months of preparing our 3 children for the move, purging all of our belongings and researching all things Mexico we arrived in the small town of San Pancho! The decision to start fresh wasn’t easy, but we were craving something different — something slower and more intentional. We wanted our children, ages 8, 6, 4, and 6 weeks, to experience a new culture, learn a new language, and grow up with a broader perspective on the world. The vibrant, slower-paced lifestyle here in Mexico gave us the chance to prioritize what truly matters — family, connection, and enjoying life’s simple moments. It hasn’t always been smooth sailing — navigating a new country with young kids has definitely presented its challenges — but seeing them embrace the culture, pick up the language, and develop an appreciation for a life outside the hustle and bustle has been incredibly rewarding. This move has taught us so much about adaptability, patience, and the beauty of starting over when you follow your heart. Six months into our adventure, we decided to stay another year! The connections we have created here, the new adventures, and the slower pace of life have made it clear that we’re not ready to leave just yet. Our journey continues, and we’re excited for all that lies ahead!” – Taya G
“Before we got married, my husband and I lived in Silicon Valley. Unfortunately, our income could not keep up with rent increases, and we had no choice but to leave. We sold most of our things, piled into my 2-door coupe and traveled through 38 states, hiking, backpacking, and sleeping in the car at Walmart parking lots. After 6 months, we had blown through most of our savings and sent out a flurry of desperate emails to any rental we could find on Craigslist. A landlord in a tiny town in WA agreed to meet us. We drove nonstop for 10 hours to meet them. The rental was a run-down trailer with no heat or insulation on a gorgeous price of land with an expansive fruit orchard outside the front door. We took it! Afterward, we drove to the nearest Walmart to park for the night and saw the infamous sun setting over Mt. Rainier. Despite having no friends, no job, and no knowledge about this area, I felt that we were home.” – Laura B
“A year and a half ago my husband and I moved back to our hometown after living elsewhere for 10 years. It’s always been a temporary thing (my husband started his own business out here), so that idea has really shaped my experience. Not only does your hometown bring up everything you thought you “outran” from when you were younger, but you’re gifted a clarity seeing it all through your older age. Nothing matters as much as you thought it did back then. The things you were afraid to face or ask about suddenly feel like they happened to someone else, a completely different version of you. Coming back has made me feel like a puzzle piece that no longer fits this puzzle, a feeling I had often when I was younger, but now, instead of pain and loneliness, all I feel is freedom. Because I realized that when I thought I felt the most lost, I was truly just being most myself. Instead of changing to fit, I left to find another puzzle. In coming back, I am constantly reminded of my authenticity, my compassion and self-love. The perspective shift has been more than worth it. And when our temporary time here is over, we will move back to where we lived before. Yet another new beginning. Once laced in freedom and realness. A grand reminder that while a lot of your life is situational, nothing is permanent. The only through line is you yourself; always there, always evolving.” – Sara N
“I recently moved to San Diego, CA from coastal North Carolina with my boyfriend for his job. We were both fortunate enough to take two weeks off work and make a road trip out of the move West. We saw more of the country in that time than I think a lot of people see in their lifetimes. From sweet southern towns to the Ozarks, to the great plains of Oklahoma and the incredible grandeur of the Grand Canyon. Since settling in San Diego, I am most excited to create a community and a home out of our new surroundings. We’ve been trying out a new farmer’s market each weekend, and recently went for our first hike in the local area to gaze in awe at the mighty Pacific and the rocky cliffs that build the shoreline. Our neighborhood is a melting pot of cultures, which we’ve gotten to experience and appreciate at the local park playing pickleball with the neighborhood kids (and by ‘playing’ with I, of course, mean losing too). We loved North Carolina for its history and the unique, small-town feel of the coastal town where we were living. But San Diego is a city with different cultures at every turn; each neighborhood has its own vibe, and we are so excited to explore them all. I, personally, am looking forward to making new friends with bookstore owners and becoming a regular at our local coffee shop. My favorite part of new beginnings is the beauty that can be found in every corner, beauty you might miss out on if you never take the leap, pack up the car, and traverse boldly into the unknown.” – Dakota K.
“My husband and I quit our jobs last spring. We gave up our San Francisco apartment, sold everything we owned, & put our most important possessions in a storage unit. We had a one way ticket to Lisbon, Portugal and plotted out the most epic ‘Adult Study Abroad’. We saw 12 countries over 6 months – we weren’t traveling, we were living. Best decision of my entire life – I wish I did it sooner & I can’t wait to do it again.” – Lindsey
“Over three and a half years ago, I packed up my life and moved across borders for my husband’s job. At the time, I had no idea just how much that decision would change me. I left behind a familiar city, a job I loved, and a close-knit circle of friends. I arrived in this new country with hope, a suitcase full of clothes, and not a single person I could call up for coffee. It took time—more time than I expected—to adjust. I underestimated how hard it can be to make friends as an adult. I made my first friend when my son started daycare, and to this day, I am thankful for that daycare since it gave me the people that I now consider my family here. The kind where you don’t have to explain yourself, where laughter comes easy, and silence feels comfortable. About eight months ago, someone took a chance on me work-wise… Just one opportunity—and it changed everything. I started working again, slowly regaining confidence in myself and rediscovering parts of me that had felt distant. Now, when I look around, I don’t see a foreign place anymore. I see a home. A place that welcomed me in its own time and way. Would I go back to the life I had before? Honestly, no. It was good, but this—this is something new and deeply fulfilling. This is my home now, and I’m exactly where I’m meant to be.” – Maria D
“I recently accepted a teaching job in a different city. This will be my first time officially moving away from home and all the people I love with no intention of coming back. The process has been stressful and conflicting, but I know in my heart it is the best move for me!” – Katlynn T
Ashley D’Arcy is the Senior Editor at The Good Trade. She holds an MA in Philosophy from The New School for Social Research and has contributed to esteemed outlets such as The Nation, 032c, and Yale School of Management’s Insights where she’s leveraged her expertise in making complex ideas accessible to a broad audience. In addition to her editorial work, she is training as a psychoanalytic mental health professional and provides care to patients in New York City. Ashley also explores sustainable fashion, clean beauty, and wellness trends, combining thoughtful cultural critiques with a commitment to mindful living.
